You got to know when to hold them…
Know when to fold them…
Know when to walk away…
Know when to run.
Those lyrics keep going through my mind as I’m debating and praying about a situation with son #1.
He. Hates. School. Hates it. But he goes and he does what he has to do and is actually an honor student. But all the while making sure everyone knows how much he hates it. It breaks my heart to think of him going through his young life so miserable all the time. It truly is a school thing, because at home for the most part he’s a really happy guy.
I’ve debated pulling him out and homeschooling him again. But it isn’t just being at school that he hates, it’s the work. And I really do not enjoy being the one to take the role of teacher with him. I don’t like fighting that battle and being that “enemy” so he continues to go to school.
Anyway, with his hatred of school, a new issue developed mid year last year. He hates, despises, abhors, loathes, detests, can’t stand gym class. He hates the uniform. He hates changing in front of the other kids. He hates that the activities. I’m pretty sure he hates the teachers.
To be honest, I don’t really blame him.
I know he just needs to get over having to wear the gym uniform thing. I don’t like changing in front of people either. He’s had some issues with the other boys in the locker room. Some their fault, and some his fault. We’ve asked if he can change elsewhere, but his only option is the nurse’s office that isn’t too convenient. And he doesn’t want to do that.
As far as the gym aspect. He’s not in the best shape. We’re working on that with him. He can’t do a sit up or a push up. His coordination isn’t the best, I still haven’t seen him do a jumping jack correctly. He’s not very good at throwing or catching. And basically he feels lousy about himself in there.
Here’s our problem. We don’t know how much of it is the autism and how much is his laziness. Many autistic kids have difficulty with the physical exercises. Does this mean we excuse him from some aspects of it or do we push him harder?
With his IEP, I know we can pull him out of gym and say that we will provide a gym experience for him, through walking, running, swimming and such. We would just have to keep an exercise log and sign it.
Do we make him press on despite his dislike, or do we rescue him from something that may be, in essence, causing more damage than good?
Do we hold them, fold them, walk away, or run?
I don’t know.
So I’m praying for guidance and wisdom and hoping that today my son will surprise us and put on his uniform and do what they say and have a good gym class.